Tagged with violence

Sexual assault in the media

Sexual assault in the media

There is no one certain way to be a sexual assault survivor and no perfect narrative when it comes to trauma. Even if it seems like dramatic trauma stories are the only way to spotlight the issue, promoting media-created “celebrity stories” can actually hurt outreach to sexual assault survivors and counter healing. Continue reading

Don’t be scared

Don’t be scared

My friend Cassidy and I are standing on the porch during a thunderstorm in the middle of the country, St. Louis, Missouri. We’re talking about the first person who taught us not to be afraid of storms. When I was a kid, my older sister shared a bedroom with me. If thunder rolled and lightning began, … Continue reading

What is not diversity

What is not diversity

Three black people (in a room full of white people) is not diversity In my diversity class this week, I said, “I’m afraid to fight the anti-racist fight because I’m worried those who actually experience racism will say, ‘What do you know, white girl?’” My professor says, “and because how hard they’ll push you on … Continue reading

Paying for it

Paying for it

If the phone rings at 4:30A.M, she really needs you. “I’m in a lot of pain” are the first words out of her mouth, and I am walking softly around my house as I listen to her, a comforting pace I do unconsciously when I am thinking hard and finding the words to say. I … Continue reading

That’s usually the spirit

That’s usually the spirit

“Generational poverty—I see it all the time,” the art teacher said. “You’ll see it too, in the pictures.” A week into my new photography program in my middle school, I had driven over to the high school to meet with her and talk about the program. I was trying to give kids cameras, and I … Continue reading

Capture the World

Capture the World

Photographs are a way of sharing our world. Scrapbooks, family albums, and the endless Facebook feed of snapshots, we’re remembering moments and telling each other, see. Visualize my world. I was standing on the pavement behind the elementary school a few weeks ago as the kids played basketball and night was falling. Another teacher pointed … Continue reading

building sandcastles

building sandcastles

Night falls here around 4p.m so, in the dark, I drove along the coastal route. I slowed to a stop at the red lights of a school bus, a kid running across the road in the dark. As the bus continued on, I started up again slowly just to watch the kid scamper up the … Continue reading

moments to live for

moments to live for

Driving home tonight from training at the Next Step where tonight I finally finished a forty-hour training to become an advocate that answers hotline calls and otherwise helps relationship violence survivors, the fog and rain was all that greeted my headlights. I could count the cars I passed on one hand. Sometimes when I drive around here, with the ocean and … Continue reading

hopeline

hopeline

Thursday. Exams, I say! I do not have time to write a blog. I woke up today with the idea of 3 exams in the next 24 hours hanging all over me (starting 12pm tomorrow until Saturday afternoon I will be a mess of memorization). Yet, I said to myself, eat breakfast, brew coffee, take the time … Continue reading

The Life of an Idea

The Life of an Idea

The best ideas come to me when I am traveling. For example, in Boston Logan International airport on my way to Switzerland two years ago, I scribbled in my notebook as the words flowed out for my documentary. Why not do a documentary on sexual assault at Carolina? I was a sophomore with no idea … Continue reading